2015年6月2日 星期二



「Terrible Two」, 「兩歲貓狗嫌」, 是用來形容小小孩在兩歲左右所經歷的一個叛逆期。

有時候,家長太興奮與太急於希望小孩學會游泳的態度也讓我們也變成所謂的「Terrible Too」。身為三個小孩的媽媽的我 ,很了解那種感覺。

 我們經常『太多』、『太快』、『太遠』和『太頻繁』。
「Too much, Too soon, Too far and Too often」

有時候,我們在小朋友的臉上倒太多的水,導致他們無法負荷。 有時候,我們太快要求小孩嘗試新的技能, 而忘記評估小孩本身的肢體心智發展是否適合 和每ㄧ個小孩的學習速度不一樣。
有時候,我們太急於增加小孩的肺活量而導致小孩游過遠才能回到我們身/岸邊。肺活量是慢慢增加的,而不是一下就能大增。
有時候,我們會太頻繁的要求小朋友反覆練習一個技能。當小朋友學會了一個新的技能時,往往他們會很快樂的重複練習。

雖然常常練習才能熟能生巧,  但是,身為家長的我們要知道什麼時候適可而止。比如說,當小朋友學會潛水時,如果潛太多次而導致小孩嗆到,喝太多水,再好的學習經驗也會瞬間變成負面的。

爸媽要提醒自己,父母的「Terrible Too」會導致小朋友與家長無法建立信任感或小朋友不願意嘗試新的或原本已學會的技能。 Translated by : Shirley老師




Sometimes as a parents we are too excited and too eager to want our kids to acquire swimming skills that we turn into the " Terrible Toos". I am a parent of 3 myself so I know the feeling :)

We often too much, too soon, too far and too often.

Sometimes we pour "too much" water on the kids hence we make them overwhelmed.
Sometimes we are "too soon" to attempt the new skill that we forget the kids are not ready to embrace a new skill and every kids have different learning speed.
Sometimes we want the kids to increase their lung capacity too fast. We stand " too far" away from our partner that we let the kids swim too far to reach us. Lung capacity is gained slowly, not in leaps.

"Too often" is usually easily happen to any of the parents. Most of the kids once they have acquired a new skill and they know they are good at it or having fun with it they are most likely to wanted to repeat it, which is most of the time is necessary and good for the kids as repetition is the key to reinforcing a new skill. However, we need to know when to stop it. For example the submersion skill, if we are doing it too often once it is newly acquired, the kids will get tired from keep holding their breath underwater and eventually they begin swallowing water and hence it makes the whole experience becomes bad.

All this terrible toos will result in lack of trust of the kids to the parents and then the kids unwillingness to attempt any new skills or even previously acquired skills.

So we should remind ourselves to leave the "terrible twos" to the toddlers and we continue to be the awesome parents that we are :) By : Diana老師






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